more !!!!! Do not assume
Monday, February 21, 2011
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... WE ALL KINDS OF ASSUMPTIONS BECAUSE WE HAVE NO VALUE TO ASK ...
not assume: 3rd. Toltec Wisdom Agreement
tend to make assumptions about everything. The problem is that in doing so, we believe that what we assume is true. Would swear is real. We make assumptions about what others do or think, we take it personally - and then blame them and react by sending poison emotional connection with our words. This is the reason why if we make assumptions, we look for problems. We make an assumption, we understand it wrong, we take it personally and just making a big drama for nothing.
All the sadness and drama you've experienced were rooted in the assumptions made and the things you took personally. Give yourself a moment to consider the truth of this assertion. The whole question of the domain between humans revolves around the assumptions and taking things personally. All our dream of hell is based on it.
produce much emotional poison tomándonoslas making assumptions and personally, because usually begin to gossip from our assumptions.
The functioning of the human mind is very interesting. We need to justify, explain and understand everything to feel safe. We have millions of questions that need answer because there are many things that the rational mind is unable to explain. No matter if the answer is correct or not, by itself, sufficient to make us feel safe.
Most times, we make our assumptions very quickly and unconsciously, because we have established agreements to communicate this way. We agreed that asking questions is dangerous and people should know we love what we want or how we feel. When we believe something, we assume that we are right to the point of destroying our relationships to defend our position.
Often, when starting a relationship with someone you like, you have to justify why you like it. Just see what you want to view and deny that some aspects of the person you dislike. You lie to yourself for the sole purpose of feeling you're right. After you make assumptions and one of them is: "My love will change this person." But not true. Your love change anyone. If people change is because they want change, not because you can change them.
True love is accepting others as they are, without trying to change. If we try to change means that, in fact, we do not like. Of course, if you decide to live with someone, if you get to that agreement, always be better than that person is exactly like you want it to be. Find someone who does not have to change at all. It is much easier to find someone that either way you want it, to try to change a person. Furthermore, that someone must love you as you are to avoid having to make change at all. If other people think you have to change, that means that, in fact, do not love you as you are.
And why be with someone if you are not as you want to be? We must be who we are, so we need not present a false image. If you love me as I am, well, take me. If you do not love me as I am, well, goodbye. Find yourself another. It may sound harsh, but this type of communication means that personal agreements we have with others are clear and clean. Just imagine the day when you stop assuming things about your partner, and ultimately, any other person in your life. Your way to communicate and completely change your relationships will suffer no more because of conflicts created by wrong assumptions.
If you do not understand something, rather than make an assumption, it is better to ask and that you are clear. The day you stop making assumptions, you will communicate with skill and clarity, free of emotional poison. When they do not make assumptions, your words will become impeccable.
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